Aug 312004

The best things in life are free,
But you can give them to the birds and the bees,
Now give me money (that’s what I want) (from “Money” lyrics)

The best things in life are free,
Now that I’ve discovered what you mean to me
The best things in life are free,
Now that we’ve got each other
The best things in life are free (from “The Best Things in Life are Free” lyrics)

Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning. (James 1: 17)

Are the best things in life free? Well that rather depends on what you mean by the “best things,” doesn’t it? From what I remember from the grammar I was taught at school, the word “best” is the superlative of the positive “good.” If the best things are free does this mean we have to pay for the good and better things? Hmmm! I don’t buy this at all. All good things are free, but whether you receive them is based on your beliefs.

We live in a reality where everything is based on exchange and transactions. We are told that nothing is for free. Everything has a value. So what are these “best things” that are free? As I was pondering over these ideas I noticed several double-decker buses with the following caption advertising duty free at the airport: “The best things cost less at the airport.”

Some people believe that the “best things” refer to the essence of who we are, our true nature which is love, joy, peace, truth, harmony, bliss etc. While I agree with this I know that all good things are free. All good things include the nice feelings, great ideas and the things; and it is our right to have all good things for free. In other words, the good, the better and the best things are Good and are all free.

What do I mean by Good? Good is anything that makes one have abundant life and that gives one joy. Our innate Self is all Good. There is also the Good that we experience in daily life which is the infinite manifestation of Good. The Good in everyday life is experienced subjectively i.e., one person’s Good is another person’s…well…not so Good. I reckon someone out there loves avocados but not me. My Good includes chocolates, raisins, Star Trek, the Internet, Weetabix, good ideas and much more. Whatever is my Good is for free and not acquired through exchange, having to work for it, or be deserving of it. However, we live in a reality where the consensus belief is one has to work for one’s Good, or exchange something for your Good.

There are many books being written now about our right to prosperity. Other teachers in the past have reminded us of our right to the “Kingdom.” How come we are still living in a reality of exchange when all around us is substance, energy, which can be tapped into right now? Because this vital information is being suppressed. We are also being given misinformation that supports the need to continue the system of exchange we live in.

I believe that to have access to your free Good, one has to take the first step of breaking the mould. One way is to change yourself. The way I was guided to do was to give without conditions. Some teachers have said that to receive, you must give. According to the scriptures, Jesus said:

“Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.” (Luke 6: 38)

While I can understand about giving and you will receive, I do not accept the concept of “the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.” This is based on the law of cause/effect or measure for measure. Since I don’t believe any such law exists as there is only the Infinite Unconditioned Self, which is under no laws, it is irrelevant how or how much you give. I believe giving without conditions is not necessarily for the benefit of the one you’re giving to, but to open you, the giver, up to a new paradigm, a new way of relating to the universe. When you live in a reality where everyone expects something for something, or you feel guilty if you receive something for nothing, it goes against the grain to give purely out of love and not expecting anything in return. Giving without conditions is replacing an old habit with a new habit.

You see, the only law that exists for me is the law of what you believe is what you receive. You might argue, surely “what you believe is what you receive” is tantamount to Jesus’ measure for measure? It is not the same thing. It is possible that “measure for measure” teachings are for those who are not even open to giving and it is a way of opening one up to the reality of giving which is reflected back to you. On the other hand, the notion of “measure for measure” is conditional giving. The universe is forever reflecting what you believe back to you. If you believe in giving conditionally regardless of amount or content, you will always receive conditionally. But if you give with no conditions, the Universe gives you without conditions. It is not what you give but how you give that matters. In fact, when you’re used to giving without conditions, you’re not shocked if something happens out of the blue because you know that this is how the universe operates, by forever giving of Self. The universe is infinite and gives of itself, in infinite ways, unless you believe you need to do something in exchange, then you block your Good.

When you are always in a state of giving to others whatever you have to give, you’re being reprogrammed out of the beliefs: “the best things in life are free” or that you need to give something in return. When you give without conditions, you’re simply being yourself i.e. the Infinite Universe. Thus, what you believe to be true is reflected back to you as your experience. It might even manifest right in front of you, if you’re open to receive in that way. I’ve had situations where I’ve been at the Internet cafe and had my time increased without having to pay for more time. I have no idea how that happened, it was the Universe whodunnit! :-)

There are those who would argue that if you are giving for free, you’re demonstrating poverty consciousness i.e., you are scared of asking in return what you are worth. The human ego is a tricky one. To ask in return is to perpetuate the reality of exchange and transactions. Of course the ego is going to say you’re poverty conscious! What an excellent strategy the ego has of maintaining the status quo!

Many people will resist the idea of having one’s Good for free. Where will the medical industry be if everyone knew how to heal themselves, or were never sick? Where will the healers be who believe in exchanging energy for another form of energy called money. Where will food producers be if everyone manifested their food? Etc, etc. The “powers-that-be” are not ready yet to relinquish their powers for control, so don’t expect to see books within the mass media telling you how to use substance to create your Good! If you’re going to wait for a critical mass to awaken out of the mentality of exchange, you’ll be waiting a long time. And so the dream continues.

To change anything or introduce a new paradigm, you have to go for it, on your own if possible. Some people might think you’re crazy, let them. To achieve freedom one has to stick to one’s guns, regardless.

For those who are interested in breaking the mould, here’s an interesting website someone brought to my attention.

In the beginning of this article, I raised the question, “Are the best things in life free?” My answer is all Good is freely available now. The Infinite universe is ready now to give as much as we are prepared to receive. To help the process it is necessary to let go of beliefs that get in the way of our Good. The way I challenge the status quo is by being mySelf, giving unconditionally whatever I can.

I end this article with the following:

Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth. (3 John 1: 2)

I am Goodness,

  2 Responses to “Are the best things in life free?”

  1. this is a good song. everytime i go to type something down thats what i put first. i dont really agree with the song that much though.

  2. Beautiful name, Kayla. Thanks for connecting.