Most of the novices of various religions and spiritual teachers indulge in discussing the superiority of their own cults and systems. They criticize and degrade other’s views, customs, traditions, etcetera. They even go to the extent of ridiculing other’s beliefs. This is totally against the spirit of coexistence. They forget that in academic studies there are teachers of different subjects and levels. These teachers are capable of teaching the students up to the level they have attained. A student of primary class even considers his teacher superb while a post-graduate student embarking on research work finds that there is a lot to be done in his own field of interest, which is only an aspect of a particular subject.
The other day a family friend came to our home at dinnertime and my wife and he started talking about a person, discussing his habits and mentality. This went on for sometime and in the meantime I tried my best to change the topic saying that if they feel that he won’t change his habits it is better to keep away from him. But they were enjoying discussing about him incessantly.
Most of us have a good pastime in discussing about and finding faults in others. Some people go to such an extent that they get wild while doing so. Naturally, it affects one’s own mental faculty by way of breeding malice, hatred, insanity, superiority/inferiority complex; and one’s physical system is infected with some kind of diseases, namely, blood pressure related diseases, frigidness, nervousness, allergy, etc.
Whenever two persons meet and talk about each other, it is fine. The moment they talk about a third person the chapter of “finding faults in others” is opened.
For progress in spirituality (peace and pleasure of mind) one has to leave this tendency of the mind behind. The one who talks about others behind their back usually talks about their bad nature and faults. Today one may be talking to you about somebody else’s faults and tomorrow the same person may be telling others about your faults. The person desiring mental peace has to abandon this habit at any cost. The worst part of it is that the person who is in the habit of enjoying fault finding never sees his own shortcomings and faults which in the due course of time bring him disgust and downfall.
Spirituality demands changing this habit into finding goodness in others (Please see my article: Relationship of ‘I’ and ‘you’). One has to be watchful for adopting good traits by the mind and concentrate on one’s behavioural aspects and analyze oneself, as a judge.
SP Sharma, India