In spite of sincere efforts one may not get, sometimes, the desired result, and it may also happen that a devotee aspiring earnestly from a saint or God may be granted the same, but it may turn out to be the worst for him.
For some seemingly impossible desire we happen to pray to God and insist on its fulfilment, earnestly. Following are some examples from real life which show that such fulfilment of desire turned out to be disastrous for the aspirer:
A mother having two sons happened to arrange a marriage first for her younger son who was holding a permanent job. Though the elder son was earning better through his private job, but his physical appearance was not so good, at first glance. Seeing that nobody showed interest in marrying their daughter with her elder son, the mother grew anxious about his marriage prospects. She approached the Goddess begging for his marriage. When it didn’t help she approached God and begged thus: “O God! Please let my elder son get married even if his would-be wife insults me with five slaps each morning.” Needless to say God fulfilled her wishes and later she developed differences with the daughter-in-law to the extent that she felt her life was miserable.
Similarly, a girl was crossing her marriageable age and she was fed up with passing remarks from the so-called well-wishers in the neighbourhood and her relatives. She prayed to God: “Lord! Please let me get married even if I become a widow soon after marriage.” Her wish was fulfilled as such.
In the southern part of India, a holy place Gokarn is very renowned for a pious person named Gokarn. The story about it goes like this: In ancient times a sonless Brahmin approached a saint and insisted for help in granting him a son. The saint though extremely reluctant acceded to his earnest request. He gave a fruit to the Brahmin to be eaten by his wife to conceive a son. He took up that fruit and offered that fruit to his wife. She didn’t like to bear a child fearing all the troubles of delivering a child and disfiguring her belly. She didn’t eat it in his presence on the pretext of eating the fruit after her bath. She gave it to the cow in their house. Then she contacted her poor sister elsewhere who was having several children and was due for another delivery. Pretending to have conceived she went to her sister’s house and in a few months came back with a baby boy from her sister and named him Dhundhkari. By that time the cow also delivered on account of eating the sacred fruit. It was a perfect baby boy but with calf’s ears and thus named Gokarn (Go=cow, karn=ears).
When both grew, Dhundhkari turned into a rogue fellow and pious Gokarn went for the study of scriptures. The Brahmin felt disgusted due to his immoral acts and left the house. Now Dhundhkari troubled his foster-mother due to which she committed suicide. Free from parents the fellow kept a prostitute at home and indulged freely in “eat, drink and be merry”. Soon his wealth was gone and the prostitute got rid of this penniless fellow by killing him with the help of her associates. After his death he became a devilish spirit. In the meantime Gokarn, a holy person, became well versed in the scriptures and returned. On the request of the devilish ghost of his co-brother he recited the Holy Scripture, Bhagvatam for the release of his ghostly body.
It is dangerous to beg something or seek a favour from God that one feels impossible to achieve at one’s own accord, or by any other means. The person who is selfish for fulfilment of his most desired result, insists on, usually pleads for, and talks insensibly. It may happen that whatever is demanded from God may be against one’s future interests. Astrologers believe that most of the provisions in the life of an individual are fixed based on the deeds in past lives. But in spite of this there is a provision due to the free will of an individual to initiate new actions, good or bad, and also a scope for salvation, if spirituality is followed. See below what boons are desirable by wise devotees (taken from scriptures):
A five year old devotee of God, Prahlad was troubled harshly by his father, a demon king, who himself thought a better match for God. Finally, at a crucial moment, the Lord appeared in the form of half lion and half man and killed the demon and saved His devotee. He wished to grant a boon to Prahlad. Being a wise and intelligent devotee he asked the boon: “May I have no desire to seek any boon from You, O Lord!” For this reason he is considered an ideal devotee of the highest order. The reason behind asking this boon is that he had faith in the Lord and felt that no matter in what condition he is kept it is due to the Lord’s will.
Similarly, Kunti – the mother of the five Pandavas, who suffered a lot on account of accompanying her sons in exile, wished from the Lord Krishna that she should face troubles always so that she could remember Him continuously. Though she endured troubles throughout her life she considered herself blessed. It is in hardships that one remembers God.
Saints usually say: “Whatever way He keeps me in the world I am happy”, and adopt the spirit of “Thy will be done”. The most desirable wish to have perfect peace and eternal pleasure of mind is possible only through observing patience in trying times and emptying one’s pocket from worldly desires. Of course, if something is desirable then the saints advise us to ask for selfless devotion.
Selfless devotion is the only way to enjoy the company of God eternally.
SP Sharma, India