Our passion in “I and my” represents the ego and possessiveness, and these two attitudes cause temporary mental satisfaction but result in extreme agonies. Walls of differences are caused due to such consideration. A self-realized person is aware of this fact and leaves it forever. Thus, he remains always in a harmonious mood through service to mankind. (Please see my article: Self-realization and beyond)
The world is a stage where we all are performing our assigned roles. The role is decided automatically based on our past deeds (not only of this life but of earlier lives too!) combined with aspirations and organized by nature. Each one is free to act but bound to face reactions willingly or unwillingly. It is an unending process of rebirths, and when one becomes aware of this fact one would like to get freedom from the chain of rebirths. All of this mystery becomes clear when an individual arrives at self-realization through prescribed practices.
The whole of mankind may be divided into three groups: (i) those who have related themselves to God, (ii) beggars before God for various mundane requirements (Please see my article: From beggar to saint), and (iii) common people fulfilling selfishness through various relationships.
Among ourselves most of us are in the third category and remain indulged in exploiting each other as a matter of entitlement. Therefore, I shall concentrate on the third category in which the majority of the people exploit each other and remain dissatisfied.
Usually a poor but beautiful girl may dream of a life-partner with a heavy purse expecting fulfillment of all her fancy desires (note that the girl presently has no feeling to serve him). Similar is the case with boys, but with other considerations. In society there is demand for educated young boys with an assured career/business and a marriage is settled with a girl whose father is the highest bidder (offering dowry in kind and cash). Demanding dowry is a kind of greediness in which somebody’s hard earned money is demanded on the pretext of marriage and the prevailing competition. Sometimes greediness leads to the killing of the goose that lays the golden eggs.
Similarly, gambling, high returns on investment (by cheaters), lottery, casinos, etc. are being conducted giving false hopes to become rich fast, and promoted through relationships via a chain system.
Here I am not going to suggest remedial measures against these social evils, but prompting the one who has become weary of such attractions used to exploit the masses. Let the law of the land and other rules and regulations take care of it.
Again, well-educated parents may not allow their son/daughter to pursue music, gaming, painting or some such hobby unless there is the scope of high returns. They force their wards to take up prospective study courses with good returns.
A person will be wise if he happens to save himself from false hopes and expectations from others. Imagine the plight of a person who is trapped in a society of exploitation through relationships and wishes to come out of it. (See my article: Going beyond man-made bondage)
In fact, our relationships are organized by nature depending upon our past deeds and fancies. It is through relationships one may help another or take revenge. The relationship may be in any form: family, relatives, friendship, partnership in business, et cetera.
The best option is to adopt a companionship and the spirit of sacrifice and service for the welfare of companions.
SP Sharma, India